Closure is one of those things that can be very tricky at times. Sometimes people like the idea of closure but really it’s not wanting to sever ties with that person you know you should. In the spirit of transparency, I can admit I was one of those people. I was trying to get closure from someone who didn’t respect me enough to be honest about us parting ways to begin with. I’m not going to bash them though, I’m learning every situation serves a purpose.

One day my therapist gave me an article about getting closure when the ex can’t or won’t give it to you. It took me about 5 months to read that article because I wasn’t ready to face it but afterwards I felt a weight was lifted. I was entitled to grieve the relationship and I’ve grown from it and made peace within. My closure came from openly writing out all the things I wanted to say to them, and trust me I had a lot to get off my chest. It wasn’t easy but I finally forgave that person (forgiveness is a whole other topic I’ll touch on soon.)

Everybody’s closure is different. Some people may actually get to talk face to face or communicate via phone. The most important takeaway from getting closure is to keep your peace. The peace I have now was worth that decision I made to be done with that person. Closure doesn’t have to be ugly and wanting closure doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a real person with real feelings. It hurts because you had true feelings and that’s ok. But, it’s never ok being with someone who does not respect you or your feelings.

Stay Flawed and Fabulous!