We’ve all dreaded a break up one time or another. But, have you ever went through a breakup where you knew 100% it was the right thing to do? Me too. If you’re a big hearted person like myself then you’ve got to snap out of the idea that you can love the problems away. There’s a difference between accepting flaws and ignoring red flags as “that’s just who I am” because you think that you can encourage them to change.

People only change when they feel like they should. You can be the whole package and someone will still act like you’re not doing enough for the relationship. I’ve encountered people who have projected their anger issues, their insecurities, and their emotional baggage on to me. In those moments I felt like I was obligated to be their “savior”. If your mental health is declining in a relationship then that’s not a relationship you should be involved in.

In any relationship, it should always be give and take. That goes for family, friends, and romantic relationships. If there is a time where you find yourself giving more than what is being reciprocated back to you, then it’s time to take a step back. When Lauryn Hill said: “Tell me who I have to be…to get some reciprocity”, I felt that🙌🏾

In your romantic relationships, you shouldn’t have to fight your partner to get the love you’re giving. In your familial relationships, there shouldn’t be favoritism or bias when it comes to love being shown. In your friendships, it shouldn’t be one-sided or you always showing up for a friend but when it’s your turn to need a shoulder, you can’t find anyone to lean on.

Sometimes no matter how hard it feels, you’ve got to take a step back or step away completely depending on the situation. Love is a beautiful and powerful thing. BUT you must love yourself enough to know when enough is enough and when to love from a distance. Choose you and what’s best for you at the end of the day!

Stay Flawed and Fabulous loves ❤